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Before you say i do.

November 26, 2008 at 6:28 am · Filed under Relationship ·Tagged , , , ,

Before you say i do

Before you take this lady you are dating to the altar, take time to investigate her story.

1 Check up all her references discretely without letting her know what you are doing.

2 Ask questions from her friends, go to her church, working place or school and find out what kind
of person she really is.

3 If she has hopped several churches, find out what of reputation she had in those churches.

4 People are not usually whom they seem to be at first. First impressions sometimes sometime can be
Deceitful

5 Has she been married before? Find out why she is seperated from her husband. What caused her marriage to break up? Has she been
engaged to marry before? How far had she gone with the wedding arrangements before it broke up? What was responsible for it.

6. How Many engagements has she broken now?.

7 Leave no stone unturned. What is her spiritual history? If she says she is born again, when, where and how did it happen?

8 Check out her private life, not what she shows you on the outside. The last time you visited her, what was she doing? what you see in her now
is what you get when you marry her.

9 A woman that loves you has the ability to make you overlook all other aspects of life.

10 Take her to your pastor. Go through a period of counseling. If she refuses to go with you consider dumping her now. If she looks too perfect, you
must insist on that counseling or live to regret it. The ones who look life a perfect 10 turn out to be below 5 in the end.

11. Take her to your senior friends who have stable and enviable marriages, let them talk to her.

12. After you have done your very best to investigate her past, go into prayer. Nothing can be hidden from the spirit of God.

13. Dont resist the wisdom of God. You can have temporary joy with this woman and suffer future torture if you dont follow the advice of your counselor,
pastor and parents. Most especially follow your heart and your deepest instinct.

14. If she has a child either out of wedlock or from a previous marriage, can you love her and her child the way they are without any strings attached? Are you
emotionally matureenough to handle the situation of being a stepfather?

15. Remember that after you say. I do she becomes your wife. You become her provider, protector, priest and partner. Open your eyes wide before you make that decision.

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All about Sex

November 20, 2008 at 9:02 pm · Filed under Relationship ·Tagged , , , , ,

Sex is a gift from God for married couples. It comes with lots of responsibility. Make your stand known about it
when you are ready to get married and you wont fool around with sex.Guys tend to be evasive about sex. Settle this matter
when both couples are just starting out.there will be no sex until marriage, preiod.

1. Dont stay at each other place for whatever reason. If he/she insist does not have a ride, drive him/her    home, or call a taxi for her/him.
If especially she stays over you guys may begin to thinks she really belongs to you. Which is not true. You must treat each other with respect if you
want your relationship to last long. This especially goes to the guys dont force yourself on her. Rape is forcing yourself sexually on a lady who is not your wife.If
you both sleep together the next thing that would come to your mind is sex and this is the beginning of the road to destruction for your relationship.

2.You both dont prove your love to each other by having sex with each other. Your value is not in the sex you both offer, but in your soul.If she insists on sex then maybe she is not
the one for you. You both must define must define your boundaries at the beginning of your relationship, before things get out of hand. Learn to say NO, and stick with it.

3. Dont play sexual games with each other. She is not an object of sex. Dont give her the impression that she is.

4. As a man, you are aroused by what you see, a lady you like may start dressing provocatively to impress, or arouse you, If you hang around her a lot, you may become sexually attracted to her.
Lust is a physical attraction to a lady, but love goes beyond the physical qualities of a lady.

5. As a rule women have stronger emotional control than men, therefore if you two realise you have little control whenever you are around each other my advice to you is that you should stop seeing each other, before
you two would do something both of you would regret, especially she may begin to use your emotional weakness to control you.

6.You must know your limits and stay within them. Kissing, touching and petting are always dangerous grounds to trad on. Dont start something that is guaranteed to end in disaster.

Reader this is another topic i would love you guys and gurls to read and if you have any comments feel free to post a comment on this.

Subject. NO SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE.

1. God says sex is for the marriage bed.It is holy. it is divine. Hollywood has cheapened it in movies, trying to make immorality look natural. Sex is a symbol of the covenant you have with your wife.

2. Sex is the ritual that seals the marriage covenant. You can only seal it after signing the marriage register.

3.Pre- Marital sex brings sin and guilt into your relationship. You can create an atmosphere of fear and distrust. There is no faster way to kill a relationship than that.

4.Pre- Marital sex now could lead to promiscuity later.

5.You dont really know each other. He/She may have a long history of sex-capades and may have contracted several diseases in the process.Std’s and AIDS cannot be seen on a person’s face. Burst that condom thought. People have AIDS today that used condoms. The
safest form of protection is abstinence.

6. You will develop an emotional tie with her which could prove to be disastrous if you are not married to each other.

This articles i have written and posted you should read them carefully and apply to your life, and if you have any comments keep it posted on my blog.

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Tips to improve your Communication

November 18, 2008 at 8:32 pm · Filed under Relationship ·Tagged , , , ,

There are certain facts you need to know or consider when you communicate with poeple outside,
Below are some inmportant ones you need to know,i urge you to read all and apply them to your
life.

1.You are what you say.watch what you say
2.Your words reflects your values and beliefs
3.Always keep secret confidential,if the people who spoke with you in confidence wanted
the world to know,the would have posted it on the internet
4.You are not better than anybody else,so never speak condescebdingly to people
5.Be extremely polite to people.It really is a door opener in both career and relationship
6.When you are tempted to be rude always try to resist it.
7.If you dont know what to say,say nothing
8.To become an exceptional conversationalist practice active listening,ask questions,do not interrupt
and maintain eye contact
9.If you catch yourself exaggerating,ensure to correct yourself immediately and say the right thing.
Because the more you lie,you find yourself needing more lies to cover up the other lies.

10. The easiest way to make an enemy is to win an argument and make the other person look
stupid especially in public. Express your opinion and let others express theirs,

11. Learn to pay compliments to people,especially when they look, dress, speak or perform better than you.

12. Don’t try to impress people with your accomplishment, let them discover it themselves.

13. Name dropping is inappropriate. Don’t use the names of successful or famous people in conversation to       boost your low self esteem.

14. Speak of the good in all your relationships, both past and present.

15. Learn to be assertive, tactful and sensitive.

16. Say the best about people you are not really close to but have heard or read about. Some of their friends may be present listening to you.

17. When Talking with people,avoid talking about your hurts and those who engineered them.

18. Don’t advertise your past failures, short comings or weakness. Always engage in edifying conversation.

18b. Work on your communication skills. There is no worse put off than a good looking man or a woman              with a terrible command of the english language. Improve yourself. Remember that your facial                        expression and body language form about 60 percent of your
communication, so let your words and non verbal cues harmonize. Your ability to express yourself                clearly will draw people to you and
open doors of opportunity in relationships and business.

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Rules for single men (part 1)

November 17, 2008 at 8:19 pm · Filed under Relationship ·Tagged , , , ,

God made us for connection. To be a healthy human being, you require healthy relationships in your life.I would be giving you some tips that you need to know on relationships. They are

1. People bring the best or worse in you.

2.Choose your friends wisely.

3.Life is a choice. dont let anybody force an unwanted friendship in you.

4. Proximity is no license for access. Access is the greatest gift you can give to anybody. Mind whom you give it to. Because someone stays close to you, grew up in the same neighbourhood with you, does not give them the right to have access to you. If they are not the kind of people you want in your world.

5.Like attracts like your friends mirror you.

6.Go to where you are celebrated and not tolerated

7.Move with people who are going in the same direction with you,people you share common interests and values with.

8. You must learn to initiate friendship with people you like or want to know,show geniune interest in people

9. Your circle of friends determine to a large extent what you become in life.

10. Look for men and women who are successful in their chosen fields of endeavour and do all it takes to get them into your circle of influence

11. Every friendship must have a purpose.Every relationship must have a focus.Avoid purposeless association

12. There are three levels of relationship you need to cultivate in order to live a balanced life.

13. To attract quality people in your life, you must learn to develop an agreeable and pleasing personality. Be fun to be with. Be easy to get along with.

14. Treat each person with consideration, care and courtesy.

15 You can begin to attract people into your life by improving your people skills. Learn to smile when you meet or greet people, it tells
them that you are glad to see them. Apologize when you are wrong, Learn to use the universal neutralizer of negative emotions- I am sorry.

16. Become a solution provider, a problem solver, a peace maker. Above all, be a man of integrity. Being associated with truth will draw
more quality people into your life than any other positive trait you may possess.

17. A contentious and argumentative disposition will repel people from you faster than any other weakness you may possess.

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